Guest Blog by Nicky Tweedie
Over the last few days I have had the same conversation with a number of very different people. And that question is: why do you do NLP/hypnotherapy? As if they were a strange thing for a Dr to do...as if they were something a clinical psychologist might not readily be part of...
And then I had a conversation with my mentor and trainer. A person who I believe offers me the challenge and support to offer NLP/hypnotherapy, effectively and safely.
And so my answer to those questions has been about integrity and power. That NLP and hypnotherapy, offered with good training and good supervision, is an effective and reliable tool. And, I believe, can take its place amongst other therapies, in offering new ways to encounter old problems.
I was hugely sceptical for many years and when I finally signed up to my prac course (which also had a module on hypnotherapy) I thought that I'd sit quietly at the back of the room. After all it was hocus pocus and really to help me work out how to do better deals for the business side of things. I wasn't going to spoil it for anyone else. I'd sit at the back and not get in anyone else's way...well how wrong was I? I was naive and ignorant. And the training transformed my ideas about how respectful and transparent it is. It even raised some questions for me about traditional therapies.
I chose to learn from someone who facilitates a learning environment that enables individuals, at all levels to learn about the tools and to understand how to implement them with caution. To evaluate what is being asked for by a 'client' and how that maps onto the level of experience and training that has been taught or learnt.
Part of our conversation over many years is how NLP and hypnotherapy can take their place in meeting the needs of a range of people. And crucially, how the parts of the NLP community that don't have that commitment to offering a rigorous therapeutic model and want to run an events business, can be easily discerned from those that do. Our conversation has come back time and again to good supervision.
I wouldn't do any of my work without supervision. I don't see it as a luxury or something I 'might do later' or an annual MOT. It's something that I do monthly for all my work. Every month. Without fail. It's how I keep my sanity and my fitness to practice. To me, working without it would be like entering a race without any training: for each session. Perhaps achievable occasionally, but not sustainable and certainly not gracefully or enjoyably.
I have 20 years experience of working with individual, couples, groups and organisations. I've worked with those in mental health services and psychiatric wards in the NHS; and I've worked with chief execs of major internationals, local firms in Sussex and individuals who have come asking for 'coaching'. I have the beginnings of a dream to change the conversation...but that's for another time.